Sure, when the gays said bupkis after Jewdar overturned "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," we were miffed, but hey, they aren't mishpoche (and we presume that at least they had some really good party to go to).
It seems to us that at the point at which Satanism is an officially recognized religion in the army, you can't really argue that letting gays in the military is sending the wrong message.